Thursday, November 19, 2009

the joker

Meet 2 1/2 year-old W.
He keeps us laughing all. day. long.
See why?
That grey band is from the inside of his construction hat. Outfit completed by tie and suitcase, of course. ;-)
He insisted on these two slippers, as is the case on many days.
Self-portraits on Mama's lap.
This is at the Laternenfest at L's preschool last week. All the kids in the school love W and when we go pick L up W has a ring of children around him. This little girl keeps asking if she can have W over to play after school. We have plans for after our return from the U.S.
Opa took this picture -- I love how W touches Opa's fingers despite his pouty expression....
Playing at L's birthday party.

Playing at our friends' house.
He sleeps with what he calls his "ta-dae" (Guitarre: guitar). His "pack-pack"(the thing with the stuffed animal on the back) has wheels, too, so it is easier to carry his guitar and pull his things behind him.
Here he is trying to put Mia's tail into his big brother's soccer glove. She loves him so much she just purrs.


He does this all on his own ....
**I am totally procrastinating, truth be told. I have been working up to the actual packing of our bags for over a week, but now what is left is the actual packing and then cleaning... ahhh the cleaning! So, I thought it would do me some good to do a fun blog post and then get down to work. Thank goodness I have this little man to keep me laughing!!!
Looking soooooo forward to actually sitting on the plane in the AM, knowing that we will see so many of you very soon!!!
Big Hugs,
h

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

f.i.v.e. (yesterday)

Dear L,
I will never forget the joy that overcame me as I stared at all 3 of the positive pregnancy tests I took that day back in March of 2004 when we found out that you would be joining our family. But, as wonderful as that news and the pregnancy itself were, nothing (and I mean nothing) will compare to the day you were born and the 5 years(!!!!) since.

It seems that everything in my life was just leading up to that moment. I really have daydreamed about my own children since I can remember (and that's a long time!).

I got really really lucky when your Papa and I found each other. He is the best Papa and the best husband in the whole world and from our love, you were born!

When you were born you made me a Mama -- and I will forever be thankful for that. Definitely for me the most positively life-changing event in my life. You taught me about working hard for something that means the world to you and about how full a heart can truly be with love and appreciation. That was only the beginning though L, as you continue to teach us every single day about so many things.

You are and always have been our "Sunshine Boy." You have brought so much love to our family and I love you so much for exactly who you are.

All the Love in the Universe,
Your Mama

Monday, November 16, 2009

and then my baby was five....

Wow. This one is really getting me. Forget the fact that he is incredibly bright and sensitive, that he speaks two languages, that he is amazingly creative, or that he teaches me more about life and love every day than I had previously learned in my 27 years before he was born.

No. Although I am (obviously) very proud of who he is, what really gets me about this birthday is the fact that he is soooo big. That these last FIVE years have gone lightening-speed fast, and that more than ever I am reminded of how little control I really do have in this whole story.

So, on to the party. Saturday was our celebration for L -- with family at our house. He wanted a Formula 1 car cake -- "white with a blue five." K and I planned it and on Thursday I baked the cake, thinking that it would be best if it could be chilled before attempting to carve our creation on Friday. I went for an errand on Friday AM and when I came back, the cake was complete!!! Imagine that!!! Papa knocked everyone over with his talents -- he'd better watch out, as he might just be the designated cake decorator from now on!

Uroma (K's grandmother) brought Krapfen for everyone to enjoy, so we lit those up first!



It was a memorable party for all, I think. I know it was for one very special little boy.

oxoxo,
h

Thursday, November 12, 2009

italy with the babes....

No, we didn't go. I'm just drooling.... What do you think?

Ciao Bambino is run by moms who love to travel the world with their children. They have scoped out lovely places in North America, Central America, Europe and the South Pacific that work well for a variety of ages of youngsters. Their site is full of reviews and great pics... you can definitely lose a couple hours there just browsing, so be careful!

This place looks like a dream....
from the pool looking back at the villa
the outdoor dining area... with a view inside to the kitchen
from the gazebo looking at the pool
the kitchen.... are you kidding me??? Kills me! Look at those rustic beams -- the perfect foil for the modern lines and materials. To the left is the indoor dining room, which is large (of course, right?)

All images from www.ciaobambino.com

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

'you and me'


We can't really get enough of this song at our house right now. W pretends he is playing the guitar and L dances with his usual lively "helicopter arms."

I love "when the kids are old enough, we're gonna teach them to flyyyyyyy"

Last week marked the one year anniversary of our move across a continent, an ocean, and then part of another continent. Where there was once the two of us, there is now the four of us (plus our kitties, of course), our full lives, and cherished people.... one both sides of this earth.


Monday, November 9, 2009

ina may gaskin

Do you know who I mean? Have you ever heard of "The Mother of Modern Midwifery?" Or the books "Spritual Midwifery,""Ina May's Guide to Childbirth," or "Ina May's Guide to Breastfeeding?"

Well, I have. And to say I am a huge fan is a bit of an understatement. This American woman has created an incredible body of work during her nearly 30 years working as a midwife in the U.S. and educator throughout the world.

Okay, here's where I get going, so please feel free to click away. ;-)

There is a wonderful organization here in Graz called EKIZ, which is an acronym -- meaning "center for parents and children." I regularly check their website as they offer a broad range of classes and hold weekly "advisory sessions" for parents at no cost. They also have a school where they train doulas(female pregnancy, birth, and post partum supporters), something close to my heart. During my time working as a nurse with women in labor I always felt the powerful need for a more consistent support and connection than the nurse was allowed -- given that she/he had to split their time among several patients, charting, etc. When we became pregnant with L, it was an automatic that I looked for a doula knowing what I knew about maternity care as I had experienced it -- lacking in the emotional support of women. I have had the idea in my head for a quite some time that becoming a doula would be something I would be interested in.

What I saw on the website was that they were offering an "Evening with Ina May Gaskin." What? Surely they will just talk about her work. Looked further -- nope, she's coming to Graz! What I later learned is that she actually taught the last three days of the doula training session! How cool is that?

During the time I worked as an intra partum and post partum nurse I was totally disenchanted by the "medicalized births" that 99% of women had, with a seemingly complete disregard for the "normal, natural" process that birth is meant to be. Of course it is wonderful when a c-section is absolutely necessary or there are post partum complications. I started to look at the actual data, which showed that for all of our "advances" in maternal-child healthcare, more women were dying from childbirth-related causes than in most other developed countries. It started to feel like our health care system was providing less of a service to women and babies than was hoped.

Fast forward 5 years. I am pregnant with L and I am scouring the internet to find good pregnancy and delivery reading. You know, the kind that would help me understand how I can prepare for that amazing act that my body inherently knows how to do on it's own. I find Ina May. A woman who was never formally trained as a midwife but rather has a Master's Degree in English Literature. She learned her trade "on the fly," (and eventually with some medical training from a physician) but with such passion and intuition that she has helped to bring nearly 3,000 babies into the world with a less than 2% c-section rate. It was only after 187 "natural" deliveries that she decided a woman needed to be transferred to a hospital for a surgical delivery. And of all of those babies and moms, there was never once a single casualty or injury. She began delivering the babies in the buses in which she and her husband and a band of some 1,500 hundred followers were living while her husband was on a lecturing tour throughout the U.S.

Eventually, she and her husband bought some land in the midwest and they slowly built houses there and developed what she refers to as her "community." It is officially called "The Farm." People travel from all over the world to give birth there, where they lived for many years without electricity or running water. Ina May and her team of midwives have gathered knowledge over the years and Ina May then teaches that knowledge to each new midwife on The Farm. The bulk of her work, however, has been trying to change the state of the maternal health care system of the developed world; she's trying to give women back their power and instill respect again in the abilities of women's bodies and educate on how harmful so many of the interventions of today's maternal medicine are. She is not anti-medicine. Quite the opposite. She believes (as do I) in the incredible importance of modern medicine, but only when it is truly needed. Giving birth, she argues, should not normally require things like an I.V., continuous fetal monitoring, for a woman to stop eating and drinking(for fear of aspiration should she have to be put under general anesthesia), vacuum extractions, forceps extractions, and c-section rates that are out-of-this world (currently 2 times that of 1982 in the U.S.) to name a few. Interestingly, she even has a maneuver named after her -- "The Gaskin Maneuver" -- simply moving to hands and knees -- which is used when the shoulders of the infant appear to not be able to pass through the pelvis. Ina May teaches it to care providers all over the world.

When asked if she thought that this trend "toward ignorance and stupidity" was financially driven, she said no. She believes that "stupid quite simply begets stupid." Ouch.

A fascinating idea that she talks about in her books as well is the idea that human beings were made to function just as well as all other mammals. But that the main differentiating factor is that we have thoughts and emotions that change the whole game.

Birth is, simply put, as emotionally charged as life gets. And the connection between how safe, loved, and supported a woman feels during this time directly impacts all aspects of her labor and delivery, and for women these are hugely defining moments that stay with us for the rest of our lives. It is such a sacred act, and as she says "you wouldn't be able to poop on cue surrounded by bright lights and strangers, so why should we expect people to give birth on cue."

It was an honor for me to hear her, see her, feel her energy. I was giddy all day knowing we (K went with me!) would be hearing her. I had no idea the group would be so intimate and that I would have the chance to ask her multiple questions and visit with her personally and shake her hand afterward.

Here she is talking at The Farm.


If this topic interests you, her books have been translated in to many languages, including German.

Also, this documentary is definitely a must-see for all pregnant women in the U.S.

Friday, November 6, 2009

dreams....

... they really do come true.
We are so thankful for the opportunity to be able to fly to the U.S. in just two short weeks.
We can't wait to see all of our "special people!!!"


** Have you seen this??? Looove it.